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I was married for 12 years. We were together for a total of about 15 years. We bore 3 beautiful sons together. Sometime after the marriage ended my ex told me that he never loved me. He said that he loved the idea of who he thought I WOULD be, but never loved me. That revelation singed my soul. I absolutely loved him. I loved him through some stuff!!!! I was always willing to grow and reflect to love him better during the course of our marriage. At his revelation of never have loved me I wondered was I wrong to have action verb loved him so profoundly? I regretted my innate ability to love so deeply. That is until I realized the gift of loving so deeply has given me. I now know my great capacity to love. I now know how important it is to love myself and how important it is to set boundaries in love. I still love deeply. It is a beautiful gift from God. I don't regret having loved a man that claimed to have never loved me. It doesn't make me less than. It makes me beautiful and tender hearted. It makes me strong. It takes strength and courage to CHOOSE to love. I love me more today than ever before. I love Anitra so very much. I love me enough to know when to walk away not in anger, but in love. I am stronger and wiser having loved. KIAI!
KIA...not like the car or a person's name. No its KIA as in KIAI. It means to yell. This is at the end of all of my posts. Its a Japanese term meaning to yell. We Kiai in martial arts for several reasons: It releases your inner chi, It tightens up your body to dispel the power of a received strike, it alerts others to an imposing threat against you.
Sometimes we all need to scream and let out whatever is plaguing us. Sometimes we just need a release. Sometimes we want or need someone to hear us, to recognize our humanity and send up a signal that they get us and hear us. We want others to see our pain and say they get it. We all want to know that we are not alone in our journey and experiences, to know that we aren't crazy. I leave each blog post with a KIA as a beacon of hope to someone that needs encouragement or a good laugh. I hope you can find your inner strength to carry on. And not simply exist but to thrive. Life is hard and soft and crazy and beautiful but most of all it IS worth it. Although at times it may not seem like it. So, when you read my posts feel free to KIA with me. For, you are NOT alone!.... God Bless and KIA!
This was actually written several years ago. I never knew at that time where that journey would take me. How amazing! Please read on:
I can't sleep. I'm very peaceful in the silence while my mind reflects and seeks clarity on deeper things of the heart. I am thinking about the importance of knowing my value. I suddenly became aware that I don't quite fully embrace it or know it. That is deep. I consider myself a confident woman but in the dark and silence my heart tells a different story.
We all have value. The danger of not knowing this is that we fall into a detrimental state of being a permeable membrane. We change ourselves around whomever we deem has greater value in order to gain acceptance. We do not accept ourselves completely. We do not love ourselves unconditionally.This is quite sad, dangerous, and detrimental because we are all unique and have something that only we can give to the world.
I deprive the world of my unique essence and beauty endowed to me by the Creator of the universe when I fail to see my value and seek out acceptance instead of accepting myself in order to allow my uniqueness and my value to shine forth. The world needs me otherwise why would I be here? I have value. I have purpose. There is something that only I can give. I love me. I embrace me. I accept me unconditionally. I pray that you too will awaken to your value, love and accept yourself. Amen. God Bless and KIA!!!!!!!!!
The other day I was perusing Facebook when I stumbled upon a video of two couples dancing. They were dancing in synchronization. They were very sexy and skilled. I enjoyed the video, but I noticed something. I began feeling bad about myself! I began thinking about my body image, and to use a now coined phrase I was body shaming. I shamed the women and myself. Now that I am more aware of my value and I do self-work daily, it wasn't long before I realized what was causing this internal discomfort and conflict. In my thoughts I was comparing myself to the beautiful women that were dancing.
It happened so quickly that it almost snuck past me. Once I became aware of the comparison I was able to redirect my thoughts. I consciously stopped the thoughts. I created new thoughts by saying internally I am enough. They are enough. My value is not defined by my perceived physical perfections or imperfections. My value lies in the fiber of my DNA. I am valuable because greatness makes up who I am.It is the same greatness that was used to create the universe! They are valuable for the same reasons. I then chose to celebrate their outer beauty and their skill. I cheered for them as they slid with their partners all hott and sexy across the floor!
My mood and the conflict were lifted! The sneaky comparison confidence stealer was slain! KIAI!
Awakening to your value is a daily moment by moment occurrence. The key to becoming aware of your value is to first understand that you are worthy of love and respect including and perhaps most importantly from yourself.
"Before trying a life coach I felt a sense of embarrassment to let anyone know what I was going through. It seemed too hard to face the truth about my life up until recently. It took for me to reach mental distress before I reached out for help. Reaching out for help to Anitra Rice was the best first choice I could have made to start my new healthy journey. With every session my thoughts become clearer on what I WANT OUT OF LIFE! Coaching is not only helping with my inner peace, but also my PARENTING is improving, which has impacted my son in a positive manner as well. Thanks Ms. Rice!"
Parent/Legacy Builders Parent Coaching Program
"It helped me to see that there are other people out there just like me" ~Taisha Glenn
Parent /Workshop attendee
"Great speaker that catches your emotion and attention. Creating a vision board was inspiring.
Anitra.... articulated my thoughts, feelings and journey so perfectly that it inspired me to the core of my being. God has given you a gift to be able to share and bring hope to those who are on the journey to healing in Jesus.... God has been so faithful to heal me... you've just put it into words and song. May God continue to bless you and others through you.
Hope Community Church
"Hearing Ms. Rice's story of her life, who would have known that she's been through what she's been through. The different exercises she had for the (attendees) to do were very helpful in understanding myself"
"This (Confidence Building Workshop) was wonderful...This (vision boarding) took me in so many directions! I realize I must change my thinking to draw up a plan."
~ Patti Dawes
Finding your way to your most authentic self and healthy path requires courage and forward momentum. Anitra helps you repurpose obstacles so they aid you on your journey. That was my experience. My 'demons' are now whipped, chained and pulling my sleigh forward.
~ Coaching Client
As a teacher I know we all struggle with starting a parent meeting off with positive things about a child who has been cutting up in our class. Well, one day, I was speaking to Ms. Rice about a student that has been significantly misbehaving in class. I told her how I was finally able to get the parent to come in for a face to face meeting. Ms. Rice shared with me how to start the meeting off by showing the parent empathy about having to receive calls about their child misbehaving in class and then how to proceed with asking the parent to help me be able to work with their child so he/she can be more successful in school. I must say I tried this with my parent and it really turned the atmosphere for the meeting around. The parent was not defensive about his child. He even did most of the talking after that with his child telling his daughter how disappointed he was in the choices she's making and how she is making it hard for her teachers to help her to learn all she can. After the meeting, the little girl was a different person. I truly feel that this was because I started the meeting off with the strategies that Ms. Rice had provided me. Thank you Ms. Rice for your help. You turned a negative to a positive meeting.
~Mrs. L. Herron
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